We all know as curvy citizens out there that there are a lot of undue rules and regulations imposed upon us when it comes to fashion. From color schemes to patterns to lengths and fabrics, there are lot of fashion don’ts out there when you’re over a size 12.
Walk outside and before you hit the corner sometimes, there’s some rando stranger popping up like whack-a-mole to let us know their opinion about our wardrobe. Who knew the world had some many fashion style experts? You’d think there’d be more shows on the subject, right? Okay, enough snark! I assure you there’s a destination to this train of thought!
Plus Size Shorts: Would You? Could You?
ASOS CURVE Mixed Floral Print Shorts, at US.ASOS.com
The point I am trying to make is that as much as we try to brush off these ideas about what you can and cannot wear while plus sized, they can sink into our subconscious and thus it becomes an unspoken rule. I know I had such a rule when it came to red lipstick. After years and years of hearing black girls couldn’t wear it… I tried Ruby Woo and it’s now my favorite everyday shade!
But when it comes to fashion? There are items that I love to see my fellow stylish girls with size rock, but myself? Not so much… Bodycon dresses? Slay me! Crop Tops? Werk!! One item that really gives me great pause is shorts! In my younger days, I had no problem roaming the streets in Brooklyn with a pair of cut off shorts. Now that I’m months away from 40? Yeah, again? Not so much! LOL
Floral Scalloped Shorts, at Eloquii.com
I want to change those thoughts and beliefs about what I can and cannot wear based on my size and my age. There’s not much of a difference between the me I was at 17 and me today at 39 (I still get carded… #ThatMelaninTho) in terms of physical appearance or size.
What IS drastically different is the exposure I’ve had to mean-spirited and close-minded attitudes about women of size. Opinions and beliefs that I’ve had numerous opportunities to internalize. Which is why this summer, I’m ready to break the rules… Who’s with me?!?
Splatter Paint Fringe Shorts, at AshleyStewart.com
The long and the short of it is, the only rule to fashion is don’t use your rent money to buy it and if it feels good and makes you feel like Beyonce must feel on her best day? Then rock it, boo, rock it! I’ve learned that the comments won’t decrease with conformity, so you might as well dress to suit your style and not the menagerie of mean girls and guys out there.
Because the haters are going to hate anyway. Whether I’m dressed in all black and keeping as out of the way as possible or not, if mean-spirited people want to randomly harass someone to make themselves feel better, they are going to do it. Between you and me, I’d rather be rocking an outfit that makes me feel fabulous. That way, I can say to myself, “Okay… You’re crazy because I’m too fly right now!” and keep it moving! And just between us… There are a TON of really cute shorts out there that can build such a feel good ensemble!
Missguided Plus Ripped Longer Length Denim Shorts at AsosCurve.com
From daring denim, exotic embroidery, luscious lace, and funky fringe, 2017 is the perfect opportunity to break out of your self-imposed box and let your legs get some sunshine this summer. When the days get especially sweltering, your skin will thank you for the fresh air… Trust me on this!
Opt to wear whatever shorts you choose with a simple tee and sneakers, a flowy tunic and sandals or feminine blazer and pumps… You’ll slay either way!
Foliage Print Plus Size Short, at CityChicOnline.com
Now that I’ve said my peace, what I really want to do is hear from you! Is the scope of your body acceptance limited to certain items, like shorts? Do you feel like a body positive fail sometimes because of it? I’m 72% certain that I’m not the only one who thinks this way!
If you answered “yes”, would you be willing to be daring this summer and try rocking a pair of shorts? If you answered “no”, pics or it didn’t happen… Show us your photos wearing shorts, and let us know your favorite thing about rocking them.
But we need to know…
Plus Size Shorts: Would You? Could You? Do You?
We cannot wait to hear how you feel about this fashion rule!!!